Or the 3rd option... it's just easier to let me do it all?!! I have slight control issues, so I guess it works. But I still get frustrated from time to time. And yes, I am almost certain his style of learning differs from mine of teaching. Menopause doesn't help the situation... my counselor tells me it's perfectly normal for women in this transition to feel like leaving their partner. So, no major changes allowed for the time being In my mind, we have about 18 months to figure it all out... that's when I plan to leave the state - will he (be allowed to) come or not... that is the question of the season.