Hi, I'm Jessica. I'm 19. I go to the University of Kentucky. I plan on being a psychologist when I get older. For right now, I'm going into nursing just so I have something to fall back on. This might be a little long, so I don't blame you if you skip it all and just say hi 
But I would enjoy some feedback.
I had a huge issue with marijuana until I met my current boyfriend because of my ex. My ex was the definition of a pothead. We were 16 and he smoked 6-10 times a day, every day. He also started treating me like shit around the time that he started smoking a lot. My parents are divorced and until I graduated high school I would always go and stay with my mom for the summer, which included a summer while I was dating him. I usually live in Kentucky, and my mom was living in Kansas at the time, so seeing each other during the summer was impossible. Anyway, the reason I'm telling you all of this is because I made him make the dreaded choice of any smoker: ME or the POT. Looking back, I know that giving ultimatums is stupid and never work, but for some reason I thought that if he quit smoking pot he would want to spend more time with me and treat me better.
Like a good boyfriend, he told me that he chose me and was quitting smoking. In reality, he didn't. He continued to smoke all summer. When I hadn't heard from him in 3 days when we usually talked on the phone for hours at night, I was worried to death. I called his mom and she told me that he had been spending the night at his best friend's house for the last few days. I called his best friend's cell phone and FINALLY got ahold of him. I think you can guess how that convo went. I asked him what was going on and he lied.
I found out later from one of his actually really good friends that he was lying to me. It was about the end of the summer and I was devastated. We broke up really soon after I got back and I was pretty heartbroken because in my mind he had chosen a drug over me.
I met my current boyfriend at the start of my senior year and was freaked out when I found out he smoked pot. I thought, "Oh no, not again...I'm going to get my heart broken if I stay with him." So I gave him the same ultimatum and he agreed to stop. About a month later, we just happened to get on the subject of drugs and he asked me why it bothered me so much that he smoked. Talking it out, I realized that it wasn't the fact that he smoked weed that bothered me, it was the fact that I was scared he would treat me bad and ignore me when he was high like my ex. He told me he would prove me wrong if I'd just let him and I agreed. Weed is definitely not hurting his ability to be a good boyfriend.
Anyway, that's my experience with pot. I didn't start smoking until I was 18, at my senior prom. So I've only had about a year of smoking, but I sure feel like I've more than made up for it. Now that I smoke, I can't understand why it's illegal. It doesn't make you crazy and it definitely doesn't make you violent. If anything, it makes you lazy and hungry. And I'm not even verifying that because I've worked my ass off high before - I just was smiling a little too big at the customers.
I look forward to talking to you all more and my boyfriend might be joining soon (if just to read!) because he wants to learn how to grow and this site looks like it has a good resource for growing.
But I would enjoy some feedback.I had a huge issue with marijuana until I met my current boyfriend because of my ex. My ex was the definition of a pothead. We were 16 and he smoked 6-10 times a day, every day. He also started treating me like shit around the time that he started smoking a lot. My parents are divorced and until I graduated high school I would always go and stay with my mom for the summer, which included a summer while I was dating him. I usually live in Kentucky, and my mom was living in Kansas at the time, so seeing each other during the summer was impossible. Anyway, the reason I'm telling you all of this is because I made him make the dreaded choice of any smoker: ME or the POT. Looking back, I know that giving ultimatums is stupid and never work, but for some reason I thought that if he quit smoking pot he would want to spend more time with me and treat me better.
Like a good boyfriend, he told me that he chose me and was quitting smoking. In reality, he didn't. He continued to smoke all summer. When I hadn't heard from him in 3 days when we usually talked on the phone for hours at night, I was worried to death. I called his mom and she told me that he had been spending the night at his best friend's house for the last few days. I called his best friend's cell phone and FINALLY got ahold of him. I think you can guess how that convo went. I asked him what was going on and he lied.
I found out later from one of his actually really good friends that he was lying to me. It was about the end of the summer and I was devastated. We broke up really soon after I got back and I was pretty heartbroken because in my mind he had chosen a drug over me.
I met my current boyfriend at the start of my senior year and was freaked out when I found out he smoked pot. I thought, "Oh no, not again...I'm going to get my heart broken if I stay with him." So I gave him the same ultimatum and he agreed to stop. About a month later, we just happened to get on the subject of drugs and he asked me why it bothered me so much that he smoked. Talking it out, I realized that it wasn't the fact that he smoked weed that bothered me, it was the fact that I was scared he would treat me bad and ignore me when he was high like my ex. He told me he would prove me wrong if I'd just let him and I agreed. Weed is definitely not hurting his ability to be a good boyfriend.
Anyway, that's my experience with pot. I didn't start smoking until I was 18, at my senior prom. So I've only had about a year of smoking, but I sure feel like I've more than made up for it. Now that I smoke, I can't understand why it's illegal. It doesn't make you crazy and it definitely doesn't make you violent. If anything, it makes you lazy and hungry. And I'm not even verifying that because I've worked my ass off high before - I just was smiling a little too big at the customers.
I look forward to talking to you all more and my boyfriend might be joining soon (if just to read!) because he wants to learn how to grow and this site looks like it has a good resource for growing.
I think most people just put up with me .........But I like everybody 
