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Well, you found the right thread to help you overcome the cycle of looking at what is when it's much more productive to focus on what wonders lie ahead.Oh Sue, What a wonderful thread! I haven't made it through all of it yet, I've had to stop to cry and laugh. I want to take my time reading through it and let the wisdom sink in. I lost a lot of my self about 9 years ago and I've been stuck, trying to figure out what to do next, nothing I've tried has worked out and it's been a slow spiral downward. It seems my life has been in a constant stage of crisis management, illness, loss of a business I loved, loss of the ability to support myself in the manner I was used to, depression, identity theft, dead Cannabis plants (lol) and the list goes on. I feel it getting heavier and heavier and harder to pull myself out of and sometimes ending in a huge pity party, which I HATE! I know I'm focusing on all the bad and skimming over the good while watching around every corner for the next bad thing to happen. I'm going to try to use your tactics in this thread to try to get back to who I am. Thanks so much for sharing.
Which is exactly how optimistically-oriented people see it. When your endocannabinoid system is out of whack you sometimes can't see the answers to your questions when you're looking right at them. This is where training becomes so valuable. Even an optimistic person can benefit greatly from the deliberate act of choosing to be happy and taking methodical steps to help the brain make the shift to more beneficial hormonal and neurotransmitter dumps.I always believed optimism was something only endlessly happy people had mastered; whereas, pessimism was the gift of the constantly miserable. After all, it's easy to have a happy outlook on the future when you are already happy.Life is a puzzle, then remember every day is just one little piece. Even if one tiny puzzle piece doesn't make perfect sense on its own, we have to assume it's an important part of the bigger picture.Life is in a constant state of change. Sometimes, you might be trapped in a situation that you feel will last forever.But even the least optimistic person logically knows that nothing stays the same. No one has ever lived a life of only highs or only lows. The point is to appreciate the good times when you have them and not to let the bad times rule your life