They do look small for being planted so long ago. Also I'm just starting to learn and have one harvest under my belt so I'm not positive, but I believe the top picture in your last post shows a female plant. You said they were outdoor correct? Maybe they need a spot with better light to grow...
It isn't a sad thing to remove a lot of leaves, the plant likes being pruned (even though it may slow growth slightly, it in the end promotes more healthy and full growth). I remember when I first got mine set up I was cutting leaves off every day just to keep it all clean and neat looking...
Hi, I just recently harvested my very first grow of blue widow, and have a few other strains going now as well, in the process of still getting everything down to perfection myself so I have a pretty good idea of where your at. I'm no expert but the experience I do have is from reading online...