Probably because you only have surface/feeder roots. @Sueet nailed it I think. Deeper water seeking roots either never developed or died off from overwatering.Thats where my mindset is going too.
What i cant get my head around is why do tthey stand up again when i water
Unfortunately, if you try to let it dry out too much you could fry the only roots you have working for you.
Do you use a mulch on top of the soil?