I used to universally hate men who beat on women. But then I met more women, lol. I still don't like such things, but I now understand that it's not always one-sided. Plus, I figure that if a guy beats the sh!t out of a woman and then she goes to sleep beside him afterwards, she's as dumb as he is (pick up a cast iron skillet from the kitchen before you go to the bedroom, FFS!).
I despised my father to the day he died. He was brutal to my mom and us kids, beatings were common. My mother divorced his sorry ass when I was 5 and moved us to Florida and later to California. He remarried a younger woman after that. I am told that he hit her one time and one time only. She came back at him in his face and said that if he ever hit her again, she would take the cast iron skillet and slam him up side his head after he fell asleep and he would never wake up again. He apparently got the message. But he was brutal to us when I we were younger. My shrink says I have PTSD from that experience as a child. I treasure my mom for standing up to him and divorcing his ass. That was in the early 1960s when it was very hard for women to do what she did.