OK, so it sounds like you've got a good handle on things tbh. The only thing you seem to be struggling with, self admittedly, is the watering technique. In veg you want a good wet/dry cycle. In flower you don't want them to wilt. You want to be ahead of them. That calmag says 3-5mL/ gal so I would continue with 5mL and 6g of Megacrop. However, if you are watering after you see the droop which you mentioned was two days then it sounds like you are watering too fast. The runoff you are getting is probably premature runoff. The water is blowing past the medium and your pots are not really getting thoroughly wet. Try slowing that method down and see if it takes more water. It should because slowly watering gives the medium time to absorb the water.I just don't get how that's an easy way to tell. Now that they are in 5gal pots, I don't even bother trying to throw my back out, leaning over in weird ways to get at the pot and lift it. Now I look for the leaves to droop about 2 days after the last watering.
The RO could be why you are seeing more Ca def now.changed ph from 6.7 to 6.3 (9 days ago) at 5.5g, went to RO at 6g, added about 1.5ml/gal of c/m first, then the full dosage of 3.5ml/gal c/m- still in 6g/gal MC.