None of that is Em's advice. You've got yourself so twisted around you just need to get reset.
Em will likely disagree, but I would bottom water by sitting the pot in a saucer of water for 10-15 minutes. Let it soak up as much as it wants in that period and then remove the rest of the water. Then, let the larger pot dry out completely before watering it again, excpet for the light watering/misting to keep the feeder roots engaged. The moist middle and the moist bottom will even out the drier mix in between and give you a shot at a relatively consistent wetness.
THEN LET IT DRY.
Once you are reset you can start following the rules before making up your own since that is what has gotten you in trouble up till now.
Em will likely disagree, but I would bottom water by sitting the pot in a saucer of water for 10-15 minutes. Let it soak up as much as it wants in that period and then remove the rest of the water. Then, let the larger pot dry out completely before watering it again, excpet for the light watering/misting to keep the feeder roots engaged. The moist middle and the moist bottom will even out the drier mix in between and give you a shot at a relatively consistent wetness.
THEN LET IT DRY.
Once you are reset you can start following the rules before making up your own since that is what has gotten you in trouble up till now.